The Personal Steps


Forgiveness Meetings

Uncomfortable Changes

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Quote By the Dalai Lama:

“Meditations on Anger #233

“It takes time to learn anything, and it is impossible to know everything, yet it is good to become a little less ignorant.  In the same way, it is difficult to get rid of anger for good, but if we do so to some extent, the result is worthwhile.  You might, of course, want to argue that it is your affair and none of my business! [D.L. laughs]”


Forgiveness Meetings

Forgiving and Forgetting are two very different ideas.  Even where forgetting in unfathomable, forgiveness is possible.  Forgiveness is the healing ointment we dress our wounds with so we can continue on our paths towards more enlightened, happy, peaceful, loving lives.

Forgiving our oppressors is NOT the same as forgetting what our oppressors have proven themselves capable of.

If an abused, fearful or hungry creature bites me I forgive them..for they truly know not what/why they do.  I do not forget what happens if I put my hand near an abused, fearful or hungry creatures mouth.


In order to facilitate forgiveness and healing, I propose starting Forgiveness Meetings.

Forgiveness Meetings

A neutral place [preferably outside in nature surrounded by/surrounding our cherished elements] is needed.  Recommend sitting in a circle around a tree or water source as a neutral/healing visual for all meeting guests.

All attendees take turns verbally giving/affirming forgiveness to those who have knowingly or unknowingly cause us harm, pain, uncomfort, confusion, or any negative feeling we associate with whomever [or whatever] we need to forgive in order to release ourselves from that painful memory, feeling, situation, etc.

When someone hurts us, what is the one action we ourselves can do to stop the negative cycle?


What is the only action that releases us from our own personal internal [or external] hells?


How do we express love in its purest and most raw form?

Forgiveness without bias or exception (s).

Forgiveness is not for the forgiven.

Forgiveness is for the forgiver.

To love one’s self enough to forgive any and all transgressions committed (personally or by another) is the first and most important step in order to truly reach a position of love, personal happiness and universal peace.  Forgive yourself and others.

Otherwise, you will continue to suffer.

Quote By the Dalai Lama:

“Meditations on Adulthood #39

“The happiness and suffering of human beings does not depend on satisfying the senses alone.  Above all, they depend on mental factors.  Let’s not forget that.  If you have a beautifully furnished house, a luxury car in your garage, money in your bank, good social status, and the recognition of your peers, it does not necessarily follow that you will be happy.  Even if you become a billionaire, will it automatically make you happy? Maybe Not.” 




Uncomfortable Changes


Are you passive aggressive?

Are you spiteful?

Are you always a victim?

Are you never satisfied?

Are you always on your phone?

Are you obsessed with status, money or power?

Are you scared to speak up against injustice?

Are you an OVER consumer of any one thing?

Are you negative? Do you spread rumours or lies?

Do you physically, emotionally, psychologically abuse other beings?

Do you act reckless or carelessly with your belongings or things you are responsible for?

Do you act superior to any other being? Do you yell excessively as a bullying tactic?

Pin-point one flaw about yourself…ask someone who does not like you what flaws they see in you.

Once you pick one of the many

personal flaws about yourself:

Change it.

  1. Acknowledge your flaw OUT LOUD.  Tell others around you about your flaw and that you want them to help point out when they notice your flaw causing harm to yourself or anyone else.  Give those who care about you permission to verbally point out when your flaw rears its ugly head.
  2. Replace your unhealthy habit with a healthy one.
  3. Be patient with yourself and others. Breathe.
  4. Be diligent with your uncomfortable change.
  5. Once you feel confident and capable, repeat these steps with another uncomfortable change you need/want/know to change.



Quote By the Dalai Lama:

“Meditations on the Disabled and Their Carers #103

“Whatever happens, never lose heart.  Whoever says to him/herself ‘I will succeed’ will reach their goal.  But if you think ‘It’s impossible, I don’t have all my faculties, I will never manage’, then you will fail.  As the Tibetan saying goes, ‘One cannot shake off poverty by losing courage.’”


Free-Cycling & Free-Marketing

I’m not telling you to start a new currency or a new market.  I am telling you to share without attaching conditions to your generosity.

Practice the Golden Rule; Treat Others the Way You Would Want to be Treated IF You Were in Their Position/Shoes.


Quote By the Dalai Lama:

“Meditations on Indifference #305

“We depend on others from the moment we are conceived.  The happiness and the future of our world, all the facilities we have, the simplest object that we use, our very survival from day to day, all result from the efforts of many people.  Prayer and other spiritual practices also have a definitive effect, but it is mainly human activity that shapes the world.”



Notes on Personal Steps


Forgiving one’s self and others, changing things about ourselves (especially when the change causes discomfort), and de-cluttering one’s space while giving freely/with no strings attached:

They are all steps we can personally take to improve ourselves, our lives and the lives of those around us (directly and/or indirectly).

Saddleback Church one family, many locations


A.s.C., was born the eldest of Howie and Ann Sarmiento of Saddleback Church's main Human Trafficking Ministry based in Southern California. A.s.C. was brought up volunteering from a young age and raised to help wherever possible. It was ingrained in her that although the world can be beautiful and wonderful…it can also be frightening and destructive for many who lose their way in life and it was always a personal responsibility to lift up whomever whenever and be the change she believed was needed in the world. This book is a tribute to the Sarmiento family and their struggles against the odds to help their community. Join A.s.C. and her writings and show support for her family at

Project Cuddle


While A.s.C. volunteered for Project Cuddle, her understanding of the great need for support and counselling for families, young women and children throughout the world grew. Project Cuddles efforts of providing safe and loving homes to babies that would otherwise be abandoned or thrown into the machine we call ‘Child Services’ to grow up in foster care or orphanages is felt and deeply appreciated by many.

The tremendous support and advice Project Cuddle provides to women, babies & adoptive families through their compassion and strong leadership still inspires many today.

Girl Guides


The Irish Girl Guides is an exceptional example of how an organisation can encourage young women to become the best they can be. Through the experience of volunteering to support a progressive youth leadership program and being privileged to be a part of such an inspirational organization has inspired A.s.C.’s works in many ways.